If we step back and pay attention to the moments in our lives where we communicate with someone, what would we hear if we were to really listen?
We spend excessive time rambling about everything that is wrong in our lives. All that does not serve us. Why?
We dwell on this narrative we keep telling ourselves, the one we run to share with other people; we are stuck repeatedly talking about something that is not where we want to be nor who we want to be, not what we want for our lives. Why don't we spend this time talking about who we want to become, where we want to be, what we want for our lives, our goals, our dreams, what makes our hearts feel full, and what we are working towards, why not ramble about things that DO serve us and the things that ARE so good in our lives ?!
THE WAY WE ARE DESCRIBING OUR LIFE IS THE WAY IT IS MANIFESTING !!!!
And whatever we give energy to, we give life to it too.
We have to be able to recognize this pattern; in no way does talking about the things that make us feel defeated fix the issue; it just keeps adding to this feeling and feeding it with energy. Talk about it once, write it down, scream, sing, cry, whatever your outlet is, get it out of your system, but don't dwell on this over and over, or we end up giving away our power, controlled by external things, we become prisoners to circumstances, people, the weather, our job, we have to take this power back because guess what, WE ARE IN CONTROL!! It is our sole responsibility to feel good; things happen, sometimes things that we wish were different, and sometimes we think our world is crumbling right in front of us, but we get to CHOOSE how to react to this and how to channel this in a way that serves us instead of self-sabotaging.
If we go through life letting every little thing make us feel bad and then rush to share this thing that went wrong on repeat with those in our life, we will not ever feel good; there will always be something !! We are in no way obligated to give everything a reaction; things happen and then WE label these as good or bad.
I am GUILTY of this; I am not perfect and learning every day. I have been consciously practicing talking about my life in a way that allows me to exit the trap of being in a negative cycle and STOP self-sabotaging.
When spending time with my family and when talking with friends, not being quick to list all the things that are not so pleasant right now; instead, choosing to talk about our goals, what we aspire to achieve, the books we are reading, the things we love and why, the good things in life instead of our worries and stresses, thus making this conversation come from a place of love instead of fear. This affirms the things that serve us, breaks out the negativity loop, and serves for meaningful conversations instead of ones that drain our energy.
Things cannot be good or bad; we decide how to refer to these and how to attach them emotionally. But things just are, and whatever happens is what is needed for us to grow and evolve; otherwise, it would not have happened. Every single experience we live through, we as individuals need to grow, evolve, and learn, not a coincidence, not the result of a right or wrong choice, but precisely what we needed at that moment.
People can only feel, think, and act at their level of consciousness; when someone does or doesn't do something, it reflects their level of consciousness at the time. Sometimes, we look back on our lives and wish we had done things differently. We can have this thought because we are now at a different, higher level of consciousness than we were before. We do our best with what we know; you need to know better to do better. This is your evolution, and it is different for everyone. It is how you often come to outgrow places, people, ideas, and things because you have reached this new level of being.
The good thing is we know better now, and if you want to look at your future, look at who you are today, how you spend your time, what you think, what you say, who you surround yourself with, what you watch, what you read and how you talk to yourself.
Now, our level of consciousness does not magically raise itself and level up; we have to put in the work, and most of us live in the past and have created a resistance to living in the future. This is because our bodies and our minds have engrained the habits we make for ourselves, and emotionally, we grow attached to our past experiences, even if they were negative. We keep strengthening these by rambling on and going in circles! We cannot think, act, and feel the same way we always have but expect a different outcome to happen.
WE CANNOT CONTINUE TO DO THE SAME THINGS WE ALWAYS HAVE BUT EXPECT A DIFFERENT OUTCOME !!!
It is entirely up to what we do today, where we will be in the near future. What are we thinking? What are we saying? What are we doing? These have to BE different from what we are used to! We need new habits, new routines, things that serve us.
We have to stop the cycle, or we won't be free to live life to its potential. Instead, we will live life to our potential – dictated by our level of consciousness.
Instead of being quick to list everything that is 'wrong,' let's list everything that feels good in our lives.
So, what are we going to change today?
with love always,
valeria.